Do you have a Dysfunctional Family and Christmas together often ends in Drama and Stress 👇
The Relationship Drama Triangle could be with Parents, Siblings, Your Husband/Wife or extended family
FIRSTLY work out which one of the 3 Drama Triangle positions is your primarily go to when triggered by Relationships
There are 3 positions in the Drama Triangle:
1️⃣ VICTIM – Feels helpless, powerless, can’t get a break, this always happens to me, doesn’t take responsibility
2️⃣ RESCUER – Takes on other peoples problems, tries to save others but don’t look at their own life, always looking to help or give advice
3️⃣ PERSECUTOR – Gets Frustrated, Bullies, Blames, they’re wrong, I’m right, do what I say, can hold a grudge
Now how do you get our of these 3 Positions
1️⃣ VICTIM – Become a Survivor, think like a Problem Solver, What do you want, What Steps do you need to take.
2️⃣ RESCUER – Become a Teacher vs Rescuer, listen, support and encourage the person to Identify Solutions, to take Responsibility
Important to set boundaries (Time & Energy)
3️⃣ PERSECUTOR – become a challenger , be firm but fair, support and encourage the other person but se boundaries… Remember its not your problem to solve
Don’t let the Beauty of a Family Christmas turn into a huge Drama Triangle … be aware of the part you play and use the above to get out of it …
Have a wonderful pre Xmas week ahead
